Part 1
I have another question. Yes. It seems to me that most of my friends and me included have the least patience with our mothers. All right. Well, what part of yourself that is represented by the mother are you impatient with? You understand it's a reflection, yes? Yes, yes. I know I chose my mom. Well, I don't just mean that. I'm saying there's a reflection. there's a reflection in you of a part of yourself that you're equating to her vibration that you're impatient with. You're impatient with an aspect of yourself. The only reason you would be impatient with someone else is that you're impatient with the aspect of yourself that the someone else symbolizes to you, that you're afraid you contain. Do you understand? So every time I see her and she's in a bad mood, which happens a lot, and I don't have patience with dealing with. Why? Why do you need patience? That's what I'm saying. If you understand that her mood has nothing to do with you and you stop taking it personally, you don't need patience because it has nothing to do with you. You'll just look at her doing whatever she does, have compassion to realize that she may be caught up in her own fears, but you can also simultaneously have compassion for yourself and realize that her process and her issues and her belief systems and the things that she's caught up and have nothing to do with you. And therefore, you don't need patience, and therefore if you don't need patience, you will never become impatient. You will enjoy the moment for what it is, see it for what it is, experience it in the way that you prefer to, regardless of how she may be experiencing it, and because you're experiencing it in a curious and magical and exciting and interesting way, what will you need patience for? You're having fun, even if she's having a miserable time. So don't take it personally. Don't agree. that you are like her in that way. You understand? Yes. Because that's what you're getting angry about. You have a belief that you're like her in that way. You don't have to believe that. She may have taught you to think that way, but you don't have to believe it. Correct? Yes. All right. So don't agree with it. It's the same idea, the same analogy, as someone walking up to you on the street when you're wearing a blue outfit and saying, I really hate your red outfit. you would look at them like they're crazy and go, what does that got to do with me? I'm not wearing red. It's the same thing. It has nothing to do with you. Stop making it have something to do with you because you're the one doing that. She can't do it to you. You're doing it to yourself.
Part 2
the street when you're wearing a blue outfit and saying, I really hate your red outfit. you would look at them like they're crazy and go, what does that got to do with me? I'm not wearing red. It's the same thing. It has nothing to do with you. Stop making it have something to do with you because you're the one doing that. She can't do it to you. You're doing it to yourself. And that's where the impatience comes in because you realize you're doing something to yourself that you don't prefer to do. So you get angry and resentful at her as a projection of the anger and resentment you have toward yourself for doing something. something to yourself that you don't prefer to do. So take responsibility for your part of it and don't take her side of it personally. And then you will balance out. And it won't matter what she does because that's nothing to do with you. And then you can have the compassion to perhaps reflect to her that she can choose to change by seeing an example in you of your change, but you have to allow her not to change. It has to be an unconditional love. But you start by unconditionally loving yourself enough, to not adopt and accept things you know have nothing to do with you. You understand? Yes. Does this help you? Yes. Thank you.