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What To Do If Someone Lies To You

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And? And I have one more question. Is that a question? No. All right. Then, what is your question? Well, I was asked to ask you, actually, when you're trying to... When I'm what? Well, when a person, let's say a human being... On earth. On earth is trying to connect, or is connecting with another person. Yes. And finding, and trying to find out the reason for whatever it is that they're doing. Yes. What do you do when somebody lies to you? What is the reaction? It is similar to what we've already talked about. You first recognize that the only reason they would do so is that they are harboring some fear about themselves, that they do not want to be discovered in that sense, in that belief, that negative belief they have about themselves, and so they will cover it up. But if you recognize that they that's what's happening, you can have the compassion and the wherewithal and the wits about you to engage them in a dialogue that would explore why they felt it was necessary to lie. Now, of course, there are negative and positive reasons for lie, but we're not debating that issue. We're assuming that you mean that they are using the lie to cover up something they simply don't want found out about themselves that they believe is a negative idea. You follow me? Yes. Therefore, in covering it up, they get to, shall we say, maintain the illusion you have of respect for them and the respect that they have for themselves or want to have, that they don't have. You follow me? Yes. And if you understand that that's the mechanism at work, then you can have the compassion and the wherewithal to engage them in dialogue and find out what it is they believe that is so horrible about themselves that they would think that they would look bad in your eyes by telling you the truth. Makes sense? Yes. Does that help you? Yes. All right then. Thank you. Thank you, Bashar.