Respond Vs React Helping Others In An Unorthodoxed Way

Do you good day. My question is a little, trying to think of a clear question. Oh, all right, go ahead. Take a moment. Okay. Take a breath. You know, I'm going into a new career. Congratulations. Well, drug and alcohol counseling and interventionist. Yes. And I like teaching. Yes. Sounds exciting. Helping people to laugh at themselves. Thank you. To more, I like teaching how to give them an example. giving them examples of reacting. I'm sorry, giving them examples of responding instead of reacting. Yes. So my question is, I'm in a new relationship. Congratulations. So I question myself, is this like I've been on and off with it. Is this the right person? Because when I react, instead of respond, they keep getting reminded. Yes. And the truth that I believe is, you know, God's adversity is God's gift to me that I'm supposed to get. All right. Well, sometimes I know it's truthful, but I don't want to hear it sometimes. I understand. And so, where are you going with this self-analysis? You're doing a beautiful job of it, by the way. So the person with I'm with, why do I fight? Is this a gift? Well, it's all a gift if you look at it that way. It's like sometimes I find it, is it a gift or more of an annoyance? I don't, you know. Wow, how annoying that must be for you, that your gifts are annoying. It's always an opportunity, and it's always a gift. And the only reason you would be annoyed, perhaps, is that you're not necessarily receiving it fully. Because even if the gift is the understanding that something must change. Right. That knowledge still helps bring clarity in your life. So why is that annoying? Maybe the annoyance is that the truth is, I need to change, not the other person. Well, of course you always need to change. But why is that annoying? That should be exciting. When something delivers to you an opportunity to change, to become more of your true self, why would you look at that as annoying? Okay. Well. Okay. All right. Let me ask you a different question. Oh, all right. Nice segue. Was I getting too annoying? No, it has... It has... Are you from Illinois because you are ill-anoying? Another truthful annoyance that sort of makes me stray off my path? No, no. When I... It's all part of your path. Okay. Even the parts you don't prefer are part of your path. Because if they weren't part of your path, you wouldn't be able to tell what you prefer and what you don't. You must include them as part of the path. Don't say you're off it. Use it. Use it. Okay. Going into this new field... Yes. If I'm working with people that are more... Academically knowing systems... Yes. And I don't know how to say or do those systems, but I figure it out in two.

if they weren't part of your path, you wouldn't be able to tell what you prefer and what you don't. You must include them as part of the path. Don't say you're off it. Use it. Use it. Okay. Going into this new field... Yes. If I'm working with people that are more... Academically knowing systems... Yes. And I don't know how to say or do those systems, but I figure it out in two. I feel... Yes. You know, you... No, I don't know. Tell me. I feel a little out of place when I figure something out intuitively, and they can't, and I'm supposed to, supposedly, by... Do you know what a caveat is? No. You don't? You know what a disclaimer is? Not, well, sort of. All right. Start your sessions with this caveat, and disclaimer. Say, you know, I understand that you are sort of academically predisposed to look at things in certain ways. I don't operate quite that way. I'm going to operate in a slightly different manner. I may be using intuition and functioning very differently. Whether or not you believe that such things are what you prefer, they work for me. And of course, if you believe that what I'm giving you isn't working for you, that's all well and good and you can be on your merry way, and I send you blessings and thanks. But I'm telling you that you up front how I work, and if you want to stick around and see what happens, then I'm willing to do that. And then you have diffused the bomb within you. Okay. Because the bomb that goes off and with me, I had to take a state test twice already, and very academic questions, and I failed it twice already. Well, maybe that's just not your way. And that's okay if that's not your way. But I need to get through this way to get... Who says? The career that I'm going through, you need to have this. test past do you really I am challenging your beliefs because maybe you well okay so if I if I if I if my beliefs are you know what I don't belong in this direction yes it doesn't mean that you can't be helping and counseling people in certain ways without necessarily needing to do it in a state approved manner oh that's so conflicting I know I'm working on trying to do things in the right, correct procedure. But you have to do them the way that's correct for you. It doesn't mean that you're going to be doing things wrongly. It doesn't mean that you're going to be doing things that you will be in legal trouble for. You will find a way to attract to yourself and attract to you a clientele that will be more than happy to do things your way and will receive help from you doing things in the way that's correct for you.

way that's correct for you. It doesn't mean that you're going to be doing things wrongly. It doesn't mean that you're going to be doing things that you will be in legal trouble for. You will find a way to attract to yourself and attract to you a clientele that will be more than happy to do things your way and will receive help from you doing things in the way that's correct for you. If you try to do things in ways that are actually not correct for you, you're not really going to be of much help to them. You have to do things in the way that's correct for you to actually help someone. The way I do it intuitively, I help them laugh at themselves of the mistakes they've done. And it works, but going through this academic, I can't think of the right words, this academic. This academic exercise? Yeah. All right. That I need to pass. to go on this road. But you don't necessarily need to pass it. Unless the passing of this is your particular permission slip to allow you to know that you're okay. You do understand it's just a piece of paper, yes? Yes. Yes. Well? And that's so it's not doubting my trust muscles. Are you already, I would almost bet money that we don't have on this. Are you not already, in most cases, actually helping people more strongly than many people who actually have the degree? Wow. Yeah. And that intimidates me. Then why lower your expectations of yourself? Hmm. By hamstringing yourself into a straight jacket kind of methodology that may actually limit your ability to help people in the way that you do. Okay. Because I let that. intimidation. Yes. Get in my way. Yes. And you don't have to. And paradoxically, really, the more you relax about what it is you have to give in its unorthodox way, the more likely it actually may be that you'll pass the orthodox way, even though you may not need to. Because it's really all about just relaxing into what's correct for you and letting the rest fall by the wayside or fall into place. place. But it doesn't mean you have to pass it to be of service and to be of help in the way that works for you because the way that works for you is the way that will actually work best for those that are actually attracted to be helped by you. Maybe there's enough people who are helping in the other way. Right. The challenge. Maybe you need to help in a new way. All right. The challenge that was going against me was, you know, I went from working in the movie business, which is totally different world to the outside world. going to school fucking every inch that I don't belong here, but passing anyway. Oh, all right.

attracted to be helped by you. Maybe there's enough people who are helping in the other way. Right. The challenge. Maybe you need to help in a new way. All right. The challenge that was going against me was, you know, I went from working in the movie business, which is totally different world to the outside world. going to school fucking every inch that I don't belong here, but passing anyway. Oh, all right. So I feel like I'm right at the, you know, right at the end, just test, just testing your end. But when you get to that final moment, maybe the truth will finally, finally dawn on you. The truth you've been telling yourself all along. Okay. You don't belong here. You belong in another paradigm. After you done all this work. Well, if that's what it took to finally convince you. Okay. Wow. That's your way of convincing yourself. I've done it all. I've tried it all. I've done this. I've done it the way they say you're supposed to do it. It's just not working for me no matter how many times. Hey, do you suppose that's the message? It's just not working for me. I'm free. free to be me. Hmm. Hmm. Okay, I should ask you another question. It's about a dream I had. Yeah. A dream, you know, I used to play poker for fun. Yeah. For some reason, I had a dream last night that, you know, I was given four aces. Yes. Which got me excited. All right. Well, you're holding them right now. We're in the game right now. Now, you've just been dealt a winning hand. Don't ask for another card. Okay. Yes? Yes. All right. All right, thank you. Win or take all. Because, carmically speaking, if you. winning hand and tell the dealer hit me, they will, hard.