Part 1
Hi Bashar. I knew you, good day. Good day to you too. I have a three years old and I love this. A child, you are saying? Yeah, my baby. Male, female. A boy. Yes. Yes. And I've been challenged raising him because he has a very aggressive. Because you are still raising yourself? Exactly. All right. I'm learning a lot about myself. Yes. Many of you are children raising children. Yes. Yeah, that's, yeah. And it's being a challenge because I go back and forth. Between what and what? If I'm doing the right thing, if I'm disciplined. Are you doing the best you can? Yes. Do you love the child? I love him. What else can you do? I just want him to be. What else can you do besides loving your child and doing the best you can? What else can you? do? I guess that's all. Is that all right? Do you think you are failing your child? Yes, sometimes. How? By not being discipline him. Well, why don't you discipline? Why don't you guide? Because sometimes I wonder if there is the right thing to do to put him in time out and tell him him or let him be. Children must be taught the consequences of choices. As long as you are certain that the idea of the consequence is something that would bring harm to them, then it might be the best way to allow them to understand that there are consequences. But you could also explore with the child at whatever stage in whatever way you believe you are capable of communicating this. Explore with them. Ask them what they think. what they think the consequence would be of a particular choice. Let them learn by actually exploring the idea of consequences. Now, you can arrange as the adult, so to speak, you can arrange certain safe environments, interactive environments, that create, shall we say, a miniature version, a safer version of the idea that they were attempting to do. To show them on a smaller, safer scale that there will always be a certain kind of consequence to choices and that they can learn what consequences they do and don't prefer on the smaller interactive scale rather than having to experience it on the larger scale which may damage them irreparably. Do you understand? I understand. I understand. But you as the adult need to be inventive enough to use your imagination to come up with ways of allowing them to experience these things in a safe modality, to teach them the consequences of choices, by interactivity, which is the best way to learn, by actually doing something and seeing what happens. But you can reduce the scale in a safe way. So you can use your imagination to create certain scenarios in which they can learn these things, and once they learn them on that level, they will apply them on every other level.
Part 2
to experience these things in a safe modality, to teach them the consequences of choices, by interactivity, which is the best way to learn, by actually doing something and seeing what happens. But you can reduce the scale in a safe way. So you can use your imagination to create certain scenarios in which they can learn these things, and once they learn them on that level, they will apply them on every other level. Then you will have guided them, unquote, disciplined them appropriately. They will discipline themselves once they understand the consequences of choices on a scale that's safe. And then you can teach them how to apply that to larger scales. Yes? Yes, thank you. So do you think you have the imagination to do that? Yes, I do. Well, then. Anything else? I'm going to do it. All right. Well, thank you. Does that help you? Yes. Thank you.