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And... Yes. You were talking about relationships with the gentleman. I was. Yes. And I have a similar experience that is very, very frustrating for me. Oh, you don't like your wife either. No, I don't like my wife. No. No. I need a new one. Oh, all right. Okay. My experience has been frustrating in the sense that my husband has been in an accident. All right. He has brain damage and he's very hard to communicate with. All right. Depends on how you choose to communicate. That's true. And it's frustrating for me and I look at him as a reflection. So I work. It doesn't mean it's a one-to-one reflection. It just means that it's in your life for a reason. And you need to get something out of it, but it may not necessarily be the same thing that he is getting out of it. So I am as much a reflection to him. Of course. But again, it's not a one-to-one reflection. So I'm reflecting more to him than he is to me? Different things is what we're saying. When we say it's not a one-to-one, we mean it's not necessarily the same issue. Can you clarify? What is the source of your frustration? Boy. Lack of communication. Then why not communicate in a different way? I've tried everything I can. I don't know how. I don't know how else. What have you attempted? Not communicating. Not communicating. Brilliant! I've tried walking away. walking away completely. How did that work out? Not very well. Not very well. All right. And what forms of communication have you attempted? Patience. What's a form of communication? Have you attempted? Patience. That's a form of communication? With him. Is it really? Yeah. Why do you need patience? He doesn't understand anything I say. So what? Why do you need patience? Because we have to communicate on the level. Do you understand that the only reason you need patience is because you're impatient? Yes. Well, then why are you impatient? Because I don't like the communication that we have. Then why don't you create a new communication? I will do that. I don't know how yet, but I will do that. Where's your imagination? Boy, it's full. Is it really? Yes. It's full. Well, have you found the form of communication yet that will allow you to express yourself in the way that you prefer to? Humor works. Humor works. But it's not always. It's not the relationship I want. What is the relationship? you want. Communication. I want to be able to be understood. Why? Is that so important? Because it makes me feel invalid. You mean you choose to feel invalid? Yes. I choose to feel that. Well, why do you choose that? I don't know. Yes, you do. Okay. What are you getting out of choosing to feel invalid? It has shown me more love for myself. Well? Yes. That's... You are not invalid, yes. Yes.
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you want. Communication. I want to be able to be understood. Why? Is that so important? Because it makes me feel invalid. You mean you choose to feel invalid? Yes. I choose to feel that. Well, why do you choose that? I don't know. Yes, you do. Okay. What are you getting out of choosing to feel invalid? It has shown me more love for myself. Well? Yes. That's... You are not invalid, yes. Yes. Oh, I know that. Yes. Well, if you know that, then why do you choose to feel that you are invalid? I'm still processing at all. Oh, all right. Well, then, if you are still processing it, you can't be surprised that you will have feelings of invalidation, and thus then that will lead to the feelings of frustration and feeling that you are not understood. All of that stems from the choice you're making. Yes. If you don't prefer that, make another choice. choice. All right, I feel like I follow my excitement when I'm not around him and I don't when I'm with him. I'm choosing that. Why? I know there's a reason. Well, what is it? I don't know. What reason have you created? Help me. Take responsibility. For? The things that you create, the perceptions that you choose. I created him. You created a version of him in your reality for your own reasons, take responsibility for the co-creation, for your part of the co-creation, that you experience in your reality. There is something that you are learning. Yes. What are you learning? I'm learning to have more love for myself and to not care that he invalidates me and that he doesn't understand me. How does he invalidate you? Okay, how I invalidate myself. Thank you. So he is teaching you. Yes. How to allow yourself to choose to know you're valid. Yes. Well, isn't that a wonderful lesson? That is a wonderful. That he is communicating to you? Yay! Yes. Perhaps it's not really about the idea so much of what you need to say, but what you need to listen to. Okay. Very good. Yes. He tells me to shut up all the time. Maybe I should listen. Maybe. Because when you are quiet, you can hear more of what's there. Thank you. It doesn't have to be presented in a negative way, but the whole point is that even if he does present it in a negative way, it is up to you. It's your duty to yourself to not interpret it in a negative way by taking it personally. Because it's not about you. Okay. It's about his own fears. Yes. Do you understand? Yes. Therefore, why are you assuming that what he is telling you that may be coming out in a negative way has anything at all to do with you. Okay. It has to do with your belief in your own lack of validity that you accept it as a truth. Yes. Yes.
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in a negative way by taking it personally. Because it's not about you. Okay. It's about his own fears. Yes. Do you understand? Yes. Therefore, why are you assuming that what he is telling you that may be coming out in a negative way has anything at all to do with you. Okay. It has to do with your belief in your own lack of validity that you accept it as a truth. Yes. Yes. Thank you. In that sense, just listen to the truth within you and stop trying to drown it out with what you think is communication, but what in many cases is just noise. That is beautiful. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you very much. You are welcome.