Attracting A Romantic Relationship

Hello, Bashar. And are you good day? Cast your vote. I go for five because I think... Do none of you have your own opinions? Five, five, five, five. I'm joking with you. I think focusing on the fact that everything exists in the now... What a synchronicity. Yeah, help moving away from being attached to the past. to the past. All right. Because there is no past to be attached to. Yes. If you understand there's no pass to be attached to, it should be easy. Yes? That's correct. Then you don't have to work so hard at it, right? Yeah. All right. My work here is done. So I... Or maybe not. No, I... Of course I have questions. Oh, of course. Yes. You know, you can make statements. You don't need questions. And the paradox is that sometimes when you make a statement, you actually open a door far wider for us than the question does. But nevertheless, if you have questions, by all means, don't let us stop you. Thank you. So, for me, I'm noticing that what I want to focus on in life is two challenges. What is the first challenge? The first one is relationships. Yes. I feel like I haven't been able to attract... I feel like I want to be... I want to experience a relationship and experience a family. You have no relationships of any kind in your life? I had, but nothing that... You had? So you know no one. You have no friends, no family. No, I meant, I'm sorry, I meant in a romantic relationship as someone to share my life with. Oh, all right. but you are sharing your life with many people. As in a... I think you're missing my point. Why are you calling that out as different than anything else? Why are you making that stand out and making it seem so different to achieve other than the relationships you already have created? Maybe because I have a specific. definition of that relationship that is different from, say, friendship or... All right. I'm not saying that there aren't relationships that are different in that context, but nevertheless, I'm asking, why are you making it stand out as being so different than attracting any kind of relationship? It might be that your definition is making it more difficult to attract to attract, because you're creating it to be such a rare thing. I believe that's correct. You're putting it on a pedestal? Yes. Well, hard to reach, isn't it? When it's on a pedestal. If you bring it down to earth, like any relationship, I'm not devaluing it, not invalidating it, but if you allow it to be like any relationship, generally speaking, then whatever unique aspects that relationship has for you will be easier to access. But you can't put it on a pedestal and expect to reach it. Does that make sense? Yes.

a pedestal? Yes. Well, hard to reach, isn't it? When it's on a pedestal. If you bring it down to earth, like any relationship, I'm not devaluing it, not invalidating it, but if you allow it to be like any relationship, generally speaking, then whatever unique aspects that relationship has for you will be easier to access. But you can't put it on a pedestal and expect to reach it. Does that make sense? Yes. This is very similar to the idea of having a particular assumption, insistence, or expectation for how something should play out. And as we have already said, the formula for following your excitement is to drop all of that assumption and insistence and expectation for what the outcome ought to be, or how it should look. or in what form it should come. So putting things on a pedestal is very similar to that expectation. And I'm noticing that I'm not only putting it on a pedestal, but I'm also becoming very picky as time goes, which you would think, I would think it would be the opposite. But so I have like this really strong Do you not trust your life to bring you what you truly need? Do you have to engineer every detail to make sure it's right? Because becoming more picky, as you say, is the surest way to get reflections of others who are going to be just as picky about you. Remember, physical reality is a mirror. And if you become a mirror, too picky, not saying you can't have preferences, but if you become judgmentally picky, then what you're going to get is a reflection of people who are also going to be picky about whether or not they want to interact with you because that's what you're giving off. Make sense? Yes. Is it helping you relax some of your need to engineer this and is it increasing your ability to trust that your life will unfold as it needs to? A little bit more naturally? Yes, and to some extent when I ask myself, okay, if this never happens, will I still lead a happy and fulfilled life? That's an excellent question to ask yourself. Asking that question is the right track. And my answer to myself is yes, but I'm not sure if that's kind of like a mind, kind of like type of answer? No. That's what I truly believe. Allow yourself to believe it. yourself to believe it if you wish, you don't have to, but if you allow yourself to believe that you will still be truly happy, even if that relationship never occurs, then you'll be truly happy. And when you are truly happy, you make it far more likely that such a relationship will occur. That's the paradox. Because you don't need it in that context, in the sense of neediness, in the sense of desperation.

yourself to believe it if you wish, you don't have to, but if you allow yourself to believe that you will still be truly happy, even if that relationship never occurs, then you'll be truly happy. And when you are truly happy, you make it far more likely that such a relationship will occur. That's the paradox. Because you don't need it in that context, in the sense of neediness, in the sense of desperation. So when you're happy, because you're happy, then all the things that are capable of entering your life to reflect the happiness that you choose to have regardless of whether they show up or not will be more capable of showing up. Remember, manifestation is not the product of bringing something to you that you don't have. Manifestation is the product of making visible what you already have, but simply don't see it because you're not in the same wavelength. If the idea of that joyful relationship is represented of happiness, then be happy regardless of whether the relationship is there, so at least you give the relationship a greater probability of showing up to reflect the happiness that you already have because you don't need the relationship to make you happy. Do you understand? Yes. Is this helping? Absolutely.