The First Relationship Is About You With Yourself

Hello, Bouchard. And are you good day? I have a very difficult marriage and unhappy marriage. A difficult marriage. A happy marriage. I have a very difficult relationship with my daughter, which I've had since the day she was born. What is the resistance coming from? I don't know. Yes, you do. What beliefs do you have or did you have about the idea of those kinds of relationships before you attracted and created them? I don't know. Yes, you do. Can you ask me that question again? Can you ask the same question? Or another question? What are you asking? I find it difficult to know what to do. I think about leaving and I don't leave. I stay. It gets increasingly unhappy when I stay. I think about... What are you learning about yourself in the relationship as it exists so far? Are you learning what your true vibration and your true preference are? I don't prefer my marriage, I don't prefer my wife. That's not what I asked you. Are you learning what your true preferences are? I didn't ask you what you are perceiving they are not. Are you? you learning what your true preferences are? To a degree. To what degree? I'm learning how I'm happy I am in this situation. All right. And what is your definition of a relationship and the purpose of such? What is the purpose of a relationship? What is the purpose of a relationship? Expansion. The purpose of a relationship is to reflect to all the others in the relationship what they need to understand to become more of themselves. Do you understand? No. No. Everyone in a relationship is in a relationship for the purpose of helping the other people in the relationship giving them opportunities to learn to be who they are more and more. Is that clear? No. No. What do you think you are supposed to get out of a relationship? Ideally speaking? Contented existence? Content. Content? To do what? To do what? To be what? To be myself. You think that that's what a relationship is supposed to do? I don't know what a relationship is supposed to do. Well, thank you for your honesty. Why do you think you're having trouble in your relationships then? It's not really surprising if you don't know what they're for that you would be having difficulty in them. Because you don't understand, you don't have a clear definition of what a relationship actually is. is. And that simply means that first and foremost you don't have a clear relationship with yourself. So what areas of yourself are you unclear about in terms of who you are, who you prefer to be, what your excitement is, and whether or not you're acting on it? I'm confused about finding my excitement. How can you be confused about something so simple? It ought to be obvious.

of what a relationship actually is. is. And that simply means that first and foremost you don't have a clear relationship with yourself. So what areas of yourself are you unclear about in terms of who you are, who you prefer to be, what your excitement is, and whether or not you're acting on it? I'm confused about finding my excitement. How can you be confused about something so simple? It ought to be obvious. Unless you're defining the idea of your excitement as something difficult to find, which obviously you may be doing. I think I'm doing that, yes. Well, why? What do you get out of making it so complicated and mysterious? It's not difficult to act on your excitement. Why did you come to this gathering tonight? Did it excite you? Yes. Well, that wasn't difficult, was it? It was, yeah. I came from England. It was difficult? No, not too difficult. No, it was a... But you came. I came, yeah. Therefore you acted on your excitement, yes? Yes. All right. So the whole point is that you don't necessarily have to have some overarching concept of a career or a project to act on your excitement. All you need to do, as we have explained the equation many times, is to simply, look around for whatever opportunities are available to you that contain the highest amount of excitement, and act on the one that has the most excitement first that you have the greatest degree of ability to take action on, taking it as far as you possibly can, until you can take it no further, with absolutely zero insistence on what you believe the outcome ought to be. One more time. One, two, three, four. One, two, three, four. Act on whatever opportunity contains the highest excitement at any given moment, that you have the greatest degree of taking action on, taking it as far as you can until you can take it no further, with absolutely zero insistence on what the outcome ought to be. And as soon as you have done those four things, the fifth thing, the fifth instruction would be, repeat. Over and over and over again. Every time you come to a crossroad, look around, stop, take a moment, look at all the opportunities, no matter what they are, no matter how simple they may seem, whether they seem connected to something else or not that you think they ought to be connected to, just look at the opportunities available to you to act on and just keep picking whatever one has the most excitement, most attraction, the most drive in it, and act on it to the best of your ability until you can act on it no further with absolutely zero expectation or insistence on a particular outcome.

seem, whether they seem connected to something else or not that you think they ought to be connected to, just look at the opportunities available to you to act on and just keep picking whatever one has the most excitement, most attraction, the most drive in it, and act on it to the best of your ability until you can act on it no further with absolutely zero expectation or insistence on a particular outcome. And if you just keep doing that, that's all you have to do to align yourself with the mechanism of synchronicity and allow the machine of creation to work for you in a positive context. And it will thus then help you clear up all. the confusion because you will be using the machine in an appropriate way. And when you do that, because excitement is not only the driving engine and the organizing principle of your life, but because it is a complete kit, it will bring to your attention while you're doing that any idea, any definition, any belief within you that is not compatible with the vibration of your excitement and bring it to your attention so that you can understand what you may be holding on to as a belief that is out of alignment with your truth and give you opportunity to let that go as not belonging to you so that you can transform that energy of resistance into more energy of excitement, which will thus then expand your ability to see even more opportunities of exciting things to act upon. That's how it works. That's the whole formula. That's all there is, period. Is this helping? There's a lot of information to take in. Then if you wish some time to ponder it and let it sink in until you are capable of truly understanding it and making it your own, by all means, then do you have what you need? Or not? Not. Do you understand how what we have said will apply to your question about relationship? relationships. Because the first relationship is about you with yourself. And if you don't understand yourself and you're not in touch with your beliefs, then you're going to be confused about any relationship that you have attracted in your life or will attract. So the first step is always to clarify who you are and develop the relationship between your physical and higher mind as clearly as you can so that you can get a handle on the relationship with yourself. with yourself and the relationship of yourself to creation and then that will help clarify any other relationships in your life and you will know thus then by comparison what to do, how to act. Does that make more sense? Yeah, it makes more sense, yeah. All right. So let this sink in.

your physical and higher mind as clearly as you can so that you can get a handle on the relationship with yourself. with yourself and the relationship of yourself to creation and then that will help clarify any other relationships in your life and you will know thus then by comparison what to do, how to act. Does that make more sense? Yeah, it makes more sense, yeah. All right. So let this sink in. If that's what you wish to do, think about it again and again until it makes more sense, until you understand how to give yourself the opportunity to really look clearly at the belief systems you're holding on to about you with yourself in your relationship to creation. And once those start becoming clear, all the rest of it will clear up to. All right. Okay. Can I ask one more question? That was a question. I will ask one more question. Thank you. If I did things which raised my frequency, would that make it easier for me to? understand what is my highest excitement? Acting on your highest excitement is what will raise your frequency and make it easier to understand what else is reflective of your highest excitement. But you have to act that way first. You have to be the state of being first. You cannot put the cart before the horse, as you say, in your language. If you are not the state first, you're incapable of perceiving the things that are relevant to that state. You cannot perceive something. You are not the vibration of. Make sense? Yeah. Okay. Thank you. Thank you.