Tip Of The Iceberg Vs.Root Cause In Issues

Hello, Bashar. And are you good day? How do you vote? Yes. Yes to what? Yes, yes. Four or five? Five. Five? Yes. Why? Because if we didn't need the fifth law, you wouldn't have gone to all this trouble to tell us about it. Interesting assumption. It was no trouble at all. We do what we do because it excites us to do so. Your decision is completely up to you. But we appreciate the idea of your acknowledgement of our excitement to tell you about the concept in this way. Anything else you would like to discuss this day? Yes. Proceed. In LA, I asked you a question about driving. Yes. And my fairy princess and... Yes. how we could both be happy. Yes. Your answer was helpful. Why, thank you. And we've reached a kind of uneasy truce where... An uneasy one? Yes. Isn't by definition a truce supposed to make things easier? Well, kind of. But if I drive as slow as I can stand it, then she can barely stand it because it's really fast for her. Yes. And we have hoped that eventually things will... we'll both get used to the different extremes and it'll get better. Each of you may be required to make a little bit of a shift, but the idea that we discussed with you was for the purpose of exploring why, really why, deeply why, the idea of expressing yourself in the way that you do express yourself feels like the only way that you can satisfy the things you're looking to satisfy. It wasn't really about just slowing down. It was about looking deeply as to why you go as fast as you did. as fast as you do. Well, we've been doing some of that. It is. It looks like this driving issue is just the tip of an iceberg. It always is. It always is. As we have said, it has to do with basic, unfulfilled wishes. And generally speaking, the things that seem to cause friction and conflict in your outer reality, the kinds of discussions you have, what you may be calling arguments or momentary, of disagreement are usually never really germane to the true root causes. So that's why we are saying it is important to dig deep. Find out what the true wish fulfillment is that you believe is not being fulfilled and look for the basis, the basic idea of what it is you feel is being unfulfilled and then explore different ways in which that idea can be fulfilled so that it doesn't necessarily have to only be fulfilled in one particular way. way that seems like the only way because that isn't the only way. That was the whole root of the conversation that we had with you. So, one thing that I've found is that when Gertrude is unhappy or frustrated, yes. I feel this kind of hidden joy that I'm not consciously aware of.

in which that idea can be fulfilled so that it doesn't necessarily have to only be fulfilled in one particular way. way that seems like the only way because that isn't the only way. That was the whole root of the conversation that we had with you. So, one thing that I've found is that when Gertrude is unhappy or frustrated, yes. I feel this kind of hidden joy that I'm not consciously aware of. Are you talking about Chauden, for us? about Chaudenfreude. It's almost like revenge. Revenge. Revenge? Like when you're, you've been, like you're really mad at somebody and you want to get back at them without them knowing. So you're saying that you are being passive aggressive? I think so, yes. I know so, yes. How does that really serve you to do it that way? Does it really allow you to do it that way? Does it really allow you to do it? be the joyful you you prefer to be? Or does it keep you in a relatively low vibrational state to play that particular game that way? I think it's allowing me to deal with things from my past. What past? Remember the new second law? Everything is here and now that you voted for? Maybe that will help. Maybe. Perhaps that's why you voted for it, because that's the thing that will actually help you focus where you need to focus, by remaining in the present and letting go of the concept of the past, understanding that whatever it is you define yourself to be in the moment is who you truly are. And when you define yourself as a new person, then that new person has a new past. So I can let go of the past just like that. Why not? You don't have to. You may still insist on a process, and if you do, that's just fine. But you do have the case. of letting go of a reality, a parallel reality that you're calling the past, that if you truly redefine yourself, has absolutely nothing at all to do with the new definition of who you choose to be. But it's up to you to know that that's true, and until you do, you will still be drawing upon that so-called past. So I decided to let the past go consciously, but it doesn't go away. What am I doing wrong? Then it's not that you're doing anything wrong. It's just the past. that you are not in touch with what it is specifically as a definition that makes it seem logical to hold on to those ideas you say you don't prefer. This is why we have discussed many times the mechanism of motivation. You always choose, always without fail. You always choose the things that you truly believe are to your benefit. And you always move away from the things you truly believe are not to your benefit.

are not in touch with what it is specifically as a definition that makes it seem logical to hold on to those ideas you say you don't prefer. This is why we have discussed many times the mechanism of motivation. You always choose, always without fail. You always choose the things that you truly believe are to your benefit. And you always move away from the things you truly believe are not to your benefit. So if you keep choosing something that you believe that you've that you know empirically is not to your benefit, but you keep choosing it, that means there is an unconscious definition within you you haven't discovered yet that is actually attached to that idea making it seem, makes that choice seem to be actually more beneficial than the alternative. So you need to find out what that definition is that would make it seem like the more pleasurable alternative other than the one you know may be more pleasurable but you do not choose because you've attached to that alternative, definition that says it is the least pleasurable of the two choices. You have to find out how you have attached definitions to those things to make them seem to be the opposite of what you know they could be. I'll try to digest that. Thank you. Well, all right. Does that help you? Yes. Do you want more clarity on that idea? Yes. All right. You understand that everything that you experience in your reality is the product of something you define to be true. Yes? Yes. All right. So if you are continuing to choose something you don't prefer, the only reason you would do that is that you must have a definition you're unaware of that makes it seem to be the thing you do prefer over the alternative. You follow that. Yes. So you have to find out what kind of a definition would you have to attach to something you know you wouldn't really prefer to make it seem like something you would prefer over the alternative? For example, Some people have definitions of the unknown that make the unknown seem very scary and very risky and very dangerous. So even though they may wish to make a change, they may always choose never to make the change because they have attached the definition to the unknown that makes it seem so much scarier than the alternative of just playing it safe. Even though you may no longer prefer what it is you're playing safe at, playing safe has been defined as the more beneficial alternative because of how you're playing it's safe. define that in comparison to the unknown choice that you know you would actually prefer to make. Does that make sense? Yes.

have attached the definition to the unknown that makes it seem so much scarier than the alternative of just playing it safe. Even though you may no longer prefer what it is you're playing safe at, playing safe has been defined as the more beneficial alternative because of how you're playing it's safe. define that in comparison to the unknown choice that you know you would actually prefer to make. Does that make sense? Yes. So find the definition that you've attached to the idea of the choices you are making that make the negative choices seem to be more preferable than the choices you say you would rather be making. And once you have consciously identified that definition, you will see that it makes no sense and you will let it go. But you have to identify. identify it first or you have nothing to work with. All right. Make sense? Yes. Thank you. All right. Play with that. Does that help you? Yes. Thank you, Bashar. Thank you. Thank you.